TESTIMONIALS

What people say about PAIRS


"PAIRS is changing the lives of returning combat veterans and their spouses."

Chaplain Ron Craddock
Chief of Chaplain Services
Augusta, GA
"PAIRS is exactly what we were looking for in terms of real relationship skills for combat-returned and wounded warriors and their spouses. Our survey before and after PAIRS shows a profound impact on both couples' perception of their relationship and hope for the future ... helping our heroes and their families reconnect after combat, and giving them the skills to improve their relationships and communication."

Laurie Ott
CSRA Wounded Warrior Care Project
Augusta, GA
"A safe, loving environment to help you build even more loving relationships to those you care about with tools you can use every day."
Dick Millspaugh
Chief of Chaplain Services
San Diego, CA
"As a pastor and chaplain with 23+ years of federal service as well as 18 years of pastoring, I would strongly encourage veterans to explore and participate in PAIRS classes."
Chaplain Paul D. Everett
Anchorage, AK

A huge difference!

"Do it! PAIRS provides a very effective educational and skills-based program that will expand your continuation of care for our veterans!"

Chaplain Steve Sexton
Reston, VA
"This program is unique and effective in providing a practical method for dealing with emotions that can be adapted to a healthier lifestyle."
Chaplain David Wateska
Palo Alto, CA
"A must attend to explore personal issues prior to approaching change in veteran issues."
Carrie M. Holley McCormack
Army Warrior Transition Unit
San Diego, CA


"PAIRS has made a huge difference in our lives. Our communication is better than it ever has been and if it starts to get off I know we have the tools to get back on track. Because of significantly better communication skills I think our level of trust and safety in the marriage has gone up. I recommend this course to everyone who is willing to work to improve their marriage and their relationships in general."
Susan
Cincinnati, OH

Thriving relationships

"My husband isn't fond of these emotion based encounters but since it was our friends [teaching], I didn't have a hard time convincing him. We were blessed to be with friends who would dare to open up and reveal their struggles and situations. Even though we enjoyed all the information, I think the most valuable for us was the DTR [Daily Temperature Reading]. We don't do one very often but the habit of appreciating things our mates do has been very helpful. We also can get through to the more difficult complaints with a request now and that had been a sore point in our relationship. We are more honest than we've ever been and laughing at ourselves and each other with love and trust that we will always be together. May God bless you and the PAIRS providers as you enrich many more marriages."
Ben and Jerry
Maryville, TN
"The course changed a 29-year marriage of confusion, hurt, silence and missed opportunities into a vibrant relationship of pleasure and trust that thrives on change and growth."
Bill and Becky Bestint
Falls Church, VA
"I never wanted a child as I never wanted to subject a child to the kind of upbringing that I had or she had. Now I think it would be the luckiest child in the world -- to have parents who not only want to love and do love, but know how to love."
Falls Church, VA
"I am excitedly grateful to Lori Gordon for PAIRS. She has taken from psychoanalysis, psychology, psychiatry and counseling programs the essence of their change producing techniques. She has organized these into a new entity that is far greater than the sum of its parts. Lori has developed the PAIRS system into a synergistic force that helps individuals and couples find positive change to be relatively easy. After 40 years of working with couples, I find PAIRS to be my most important professional and personal tool."
Clifford Sager, MD, Psychiatrist
Cornell Medical Center
New York Hospital
"Before class my husband and I considered divorce. We had gone to a few counseling appointments, but we made no progress in our relationship. When I was invited to the PAIRS class my husband did not want to go, but I persisted and finally he accepted. Today after finishing the course we want to thank you and say this class saved our marriage. We realized that the biggest problem we had was that we didn't know how to communicate and thanks to PAIRS things have changed, our relationship is different Thank you again to you and PAIRS!"
Linda
Miami, FL
"My wife and I were going through a very difficult time. She wanted a divorce and was only going to the PAIRS class; because she thought that it would help me with the end of our marriage. I did not want the divorce and the PAIRS classes were fun but very difficult for us. We missed the follow up class because we were taking a trip to Paris. It was my hope that it would help rekindle the feelings we once had for each other. My wife and I had gone there for our first Valentine's trip together and it was magical for us. My wife and I continued to talk using the techniques we learned from you in the PAIRS program, while there my wife told me during the classes that she realized we were not; like she had thought we were. We are now doing very well together! Thank you so much for your help.
Jeff
Reston, VA
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